I got Married Wednesday July 19th, 2017

Sorry I haven’t been able to blog lately but a lot has been going on as you can see from the title of this post. I got married Wednesday July 19^th, 2017!! After Anthony and I got back to together after our breakup as I had discussed in my other post we decided to be just boyfriend and girlfriend again and go on dates and stuff like that.

Since my mom couldn’t understand why I had gotten back with him and she also felt exhausted and burned out from chaperoning before she was only able to chaperone on occasion so we found other older friends to chaperone our dates and we were soon both feeling sad when the dates ended because we loved each other very much and just wanted to be married so we wouldn’t have to depart from each other again.

So some time went by and it was nearing our yearly religious convention and Anthony went and got the rings back from his grandparents safe which I assumed was going to go worse than it actually did. He didn’t know when he was going to propose or how so I took it upon myself to propose the same way he had the first time. I got into my pajamas and when he and my parents were in the kitchen of my parents’ house I went in and proposed. It was glorious having the ring back on my finger as if it had never gone! So in all there were four proposals, lol, 3 from him and 1 from me!

So we went to the convention engaged then and it was great but a few snags happened with family around that time which made things very difficult again and I came to the realization that I just wanted to marry Anthony and he I and since our families were being difficult towards our relationship and each other on occasion we had decided to just elope.

We have an older man who was an elder in our Kingdom Hall (our place of worship) whom we approached the day we actually went and got the marriage license to see if he would officiate the wedding and he said he wanted to have our families there because we’d all regret it as he regretted not seeing his own daughter married as she had eloped some years before. Also, he wanted it at the Kingdom Hall a week later than we were going to do it. Though we wanted a Kingdom Hall wedding the upset in my parents’ home and stress of it all was taking a toll on me and I just wanted to start a life with Anthony and we wanted it out at this elder (David Pfister, also the elder who did my baptism talk in May 2006) property. So I talked to his daughter about what was going on and why she decided to elope and also talked to other elders and it was decided it was best to do it the day we had originally decided and we could do it on the Pfisters Blackberry Farm. So when this was all decided I had literally like 3 days to get everything ready, aw!!

So David Pfisters daughter Karen did my bouquet and the bouquet for my matron of honor, my sister Lorinda. Karen also did the boutonnieres for all the men in the family. Karen also had a little surprise made for after the wedding as well. All these wonderful things were truly beautiful and kind and I can’t thank them enough for their kindnesses!!! So out at the Pfisters Blackberry Farm we got married in the beautiful living room of the Pfisters house and Brother David Pfister officiated the wedding which we videoed and I will leave a link below so anyone can go watch it if they wish to.

After the wedding which Karen had kindly photographed to perfection in my opinion, since I have a new computer all the pictures didn’t somehow wind up on my computer so I’m going to try and put some of the best that did wind up on computer on here for all to see. After the ceremony, Karen had a mini-reception for us which was just some finger foods and punch and a beautiful cake she had made for us! We ate and were given presents by those family there. Oh yeah Brother Pfister got the family on board and so my parents Linda and Fred, sister and nephew Lorinda and Jakob and Anthony’s grandparents Jeri and Bill, mother and brother Jennifer and Andrew were there. Anthony’s brother Andrew and my friend Lisa were the witnesses. Also there was Joyce and David Pfister, Karen, Kendra and Drew.

So after the little food and gifts we went and took some beautiful pictures all over the Blackberry Farm property and they turned out more than perfect in my opinion!!  Afterwards we headed to Eureka Springs, Arkansas to have a quick honeymoon before we had to be back at work in 2 days, lol! We stayed at the Land O’ Nod Inn and it was a beautiful hotel!!

So since then we have been adjusting to marriage and have had a few small bumps along the way but for the most part it’s been great! There have been more bumps with family but together we have gotten through it and it’s great to have Anthony as my husband and best friend because he is such a spiritual, sweet, funny, kind, gentle, emotional man who takes care of my wonderfully!!

It’s taken a while to tell you all this wonderful news because my laptop died for good again and I had to wait a while to get a new one, which this one is a beautiful gift from my husband!!! Some things that delayed this post as well was 2 weeks after we got married my dad wound up in the hospital for a week with a rare blood disorder which nearly killed him but he's bounced back great! My mom wound up in the ER with Bronchitis at the end of December. Now both my grandparents on my moms side are in the hospital and hospice care as well. Also been working a lot. So much has delayed this post.

So here below are some pictures and a link to the wedding ceremony talk!

Cool Fun Fact: The Wedding Bouquet Holder I have I made myself and the pictures and how I made it will be on this blog and my other blog soon!

Also New Names Coming Soon!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cj4212hKs50&feature=youtu.be&app=desktop

> Anthony (Husband)

> My Family, Mom Linda, Dad Fred, Sister Lorinda and Nephew Jakob

Anthony with his Brother Andrew and Mom Jennifer >

> Anthony's Brother Andrew, Mom Jennifer, Grandmother Jeri and Grandfather Bill

  > Anthony's Family, Anthony, Mom Jennifer, Brother Andrew, Grandmother Jeri and Grandfather Bill

> Anthony doing what he loves, playing Piano!

 

> AW, Daddies little girl all grown up!!

> Sisters by Blood, Friends by Choice!

> AW, Mommy and Me!!

> Anthony and David Pfister, officiate of our wedding!

> My Nephew Jakob, the Ring Bearer!

> No Peeking as here comes the Bride! 

> Blushing Bride and Proud Papa!

> Woah!!!

> Sweet Kiss on Cheek!

> Oh Wow!!

> Beautiful Talk!

  > Rings Yay!

> Crying Sister Lorinda in Background

  > Kisses as Sister Looks away, lol! > Oh Happy Day!

  

  > Debut of the Rings!

> New Wife Kisses and Familiar Momma Kisses!

> Brothers for Life and Secret Body Guard, care to guess who is the body guard, lol!

> New Brother of Mine, kind teddy bear!

> New Family of Mine!

> United Family!

  > One of our Witnesses our Friend Lisa!

> Officiate David Pfister and his Wife Joyce, the one who played piano as I walked down the aisle, with Anthony and I!!

 

> Cake!!!! Yummy!

  > So Sweet not to cake me in the face!

> Don't Cake him in the face!

> Goofy Man!!

> Come Swing with Me!!

> Oh Yeah I got this!!

> Get Away!!

And They Loved Happily Ever After!!!!

Been Away Awhile!

It has been a long while since I’ve been on to blog and I have dearly missed it. It has been a crazy few months for sure. I couldn’t reply to everyone’s comments about my engagement and I was bummed by that but blogger was acting up then. Then shortly after I had some major bad incidents with my parents and left and went to a hotel and my friend and fiancé helped pay for it for a few days however there was an un-chaperoned moment which caused some unfortunate drama, nothing happened but we were not with a chaperone which is not appropriate.

So anyway after that I went back home but more drama unfolded and my parents gave me 4 days to get out of the house. So my fiancé knew the manager of an apartment and they had an availability so we got the apartment and at the same time I had started buying a car off of family friends which was great because I started working for Wal-Mart in March which has been a major reason for not blogging because I work so much and on days off I’m too tired or busy to blog.

So I moved out and we moved the wedding to May23rd, my fiancé and I didn’t live to together because in our religion we know what the bible says about the matter and so we intended to only live together once married. Because of the stress of living out on my own and a new job it just led to more and more fights and at the end of April it got bad and a few days after a large fight with nasty words with my fiancé he broke up with me in a very devastating way. He blamed me for his lack of spirituality and just cut all ties.

So I was stuck in an apartment I couldn’t afford on my own and one month from our wedding. So we managed to get out of the apartment with minimal dues which we split. However his family wanted money back he put down to help me get my car and his name was on my title which he went behind my back about, per his family’s advice again, so I borrowed money from my brother in law to pay him. So I got out of the apartment, borrowed money and returned the rings and was so distraught I couldn’t stand it. To make matters worse we work in the same department at Wal-Mart and see each other every single day.

So for 2 weeks I had to live with him trying to talk to me or look at me and it was just horrible for me, I cried so much. Anthony moped around and looked like he had died and I was just so miserable I couldn’t stand to go on.

I went through various phases, distraught, anger, hatreds, ect, I was sue I would never take him back ever. Two weeks in to the breakup at one of our Christian meetings he worse the exact colors of suit and shirt that were original wedding colors and I became so upset I texted him about it. Then I called him that night and for 2 ½ hours I told him everything about my feelings and not wishing to see us suffer any longer.

So we meditated on it and prayed and the next day he had me meet him before work. We talked and we decided to get back together but not as fiancé but boyfriend and girlfriend again until we can afford to get a place and get married not stay stuck in engagement like before but this too caused me and my family confusion and upset. How does one explain this course of action I have yet to figure out?

Worse yet is trying to explain to family and friends why after everything I took him back. We all mess up, we all screw up. We all make decisions we later regret and I saw how he regretted his decision, at the end April we had become harsh toward each other and we needed the break to learn valuable lessons. We needed to learn proper communication, patience, trust, respect. Not to speak harsh or rashly, not to become unduly angry and to rely on Jehovah God for guidance and direction. We needed the time to learn and we are in a better place now but there are still times of miscommunication and stress but it’s because we are imperfect. Some think we are rushing and others think we are not going forward enough but we are trying to get to a good place so we may marry and this time we have learned what we have to do to make a better stronger relationship and marriage.

So this ahs been what has been going on with me since last I was on here blogging. It has been a chaotic, stressful few months but I am trying to deal with it and I will try my best to blog more often and update you all on what is going on. This year has been probably a bit worse then last year and I had hoped it would be better so I’m hoping to make it better by years end. The great thing this year is I am still with Anthony who really is a very kind; gentle, loving man and we are ready to start our lives together fully.